Introduction

This Is Not Poverty: This Is Discrimination

Tue, 23 Dec 2025 18:37:48 GMT

Disability, Housing, and Civil Rights Failures in Maryland

Maryland brands itself as being a progressive, liberal state—one that claims to value equity, civil rights, and social justice. My lived experience tells an entirely different story.

I am an author, a single mother, a survivor of domestic violence, a mental wellness advocate, a behavioral health professional and the founder of a multi-service business supporting women and neurodivergent families. I have professional credentials, published work, community impact, and a documented history of advocacy and employment.

Yet despite this, I have been subjected to repeated discriminatory treatment, systemic neglect, and institutional harm by multiple Maryland state entities. That harm has directly contributed to housing instability, financial devastation, medical decline, and now a pending eviction that could have been avoided.

This is not poverty by choice. This is not irresponsibility. This is not a lack of effort.

This is state-sanctioned failure .

The Poverty Narrative I Do Not Fit—But Was Forced Into Anyway

There is a dangerous assumption embedded in many public systems: That people in crisis must be uneducated, unskilled, noncompliant, or undeserving.

I do not fit that stereotype and neither does my family.

I am highly educated, tech-literate, articulate, and documented at every step. I asked questions. I followed procedures. I advocated appropriately. And that advocacy itself became a liability.

In Maryland, once you are:

a domestic violence or trauma survivor
a disabled or neurodivergent parent
a single mother
someone challenging agencies
someone with a complex legal matter

You become flagged and not protected.

Maryland Motor Vehicle Administration (MVA)

The MVA failed to provide adequate support or guidance during critical vehicle-related processes, despite knowing that my vehicle was essential for:

employment as an RBT (Registered Behavior Technician)
transporting disabled children
medical care
stability following an escape from domestic violence

This failure directly contributed to cascading losses, including job access, income and safety. Transportation in 2025 is not a luxury. It is a civil necessity.

Baltimore City Child Support Enforcement

This system failed to operate as a stabilizing force for my family when it was most needed. Delays and lack of legal intervention contributed to prolonged financial instability. This placed the burden of survival entirely on me while the systems created to enforce child support failed to act with urgency.

Child support is not a punitive tool; it is meant to protect children. When enforcement agencies refuse to prioritize cases involving already-marginalized parents, they further endorse instability and deepen inequity.

State & County Agencies (Housing, Social Services, Related Departments)

Despite extensive documentation, I encountered:

delays that caused irreversible harm
conflicting guidance that set me up to fail
dismissal of advocacy as “noncompliance”
punishment for asking for clarity and accountability

Each agency treated my case in isolation, while refusing to acknowledge how their combined failures created the crisis that they now refuse to remedy.

Maryland agencies tasked specifically with ending and preventing homelessness failed to intervene in a way that aligned with their stated mission. Support was reactive instead of preventative (arriving late, if at all) after damage had already been done.

Homelessness prevention requires timely action, coordination and trauma-informed decision-making. What I experienced was procedural indifference that treated housing loss as inevitable instead of preventable. When systems designed to stop homelessness wait until families are already collapsing, they are not preventing harm, they are simply managing fallout.

Housing stability should not depend on silence, passivity, or appearing “easy to manage.” When public housing systems penalize those who advocate or ask questions, they undermine the very populations they are meant to serve.

Maryland District Court System

The court system is meant to be a safeguard, not a weapon. Instead, I experienced:

procedural rigidity without accommodation
lack of trauma-informed consideration
systemic indifference to documented hardship
housing consequences that ignored causation and context

When courts ignore systemic contributors, they criminalize survival.

Disability Rights Organizations & Advocacy Groups

One of the most painful, yet ironic failures came from disability rights organizations themselves. I was turned away explicitly or implicitly because I could articulate my experience, advocate for myself, and present professionally. I was not perceived as “disabled enough.”

This reflects a deeply flawed and ableist standard that equates disability with visible impairment, silence, or incapacity. Neurodivergent individuals, trauma survivors, and those with invisible or stress-exacerbated disabilities are routinely excluded when they do not conform to stereotypes of helplessness.

Advocacy spaces that gatekeep support based on presentation rather than documented need perpetuate harm and erase entire communities. Articulation is not the absence of disability, but it is often a survival skill developed in response to systemic neglect.

The Human Cost of Institutional Neglect

The result of this mistreatment has been:

prolonged emotional and psychological distress
medical complications due to chronic stress
loss of employment and income
housing instability not caused by neglect, but by obstruction
trauma compounded by systems meant to help, not hinder

I have spent days crying in frustration and fear, not because I lack resilience, but because no one should have to fight this hard just to exist in safety and peace.

This Is a Civil and Human Rights Issue

When systems:

ignore disability and trauma
retaliate against advocacy
deny accommodations
disproportionately destabilize marginalized families

That is not bureaucracy.

That is discrimination.

That is inhumane.

And it is unacceptable in any state, especially one that claims to lead with equity.

My Call to Maryland

This is not a plea for pity. This is a demand for accountability. I am calling on:

the Maryland MVA
the District Court system
state and county agencies
elected officials and oversight bodies

To review their actions, their policies, and the harm caused when systems prioritize procedure over people.

My family deserves protection instead of punishment. And so do countless others who never had the words, credentials, or energy left to speak.

I am speaking now because silence is no longer survivable.

When the System Decides You Are Disposable: A Maryland Accountability Request & Formal Complaint

To Whom It May Concern,

I am submitting this letter as a formal civil rights complaint and demand for immediate corrective action regarding discriminatory treatment, systemic neglect, and violations of federal and state law by multiple Maryland state and county entities.

This complaint invokes protections under, but not limited to:

Title II of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA)
Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act
The Fair Housing Act (42 U.S.C. §§ 3601–3619)
The Civil Rights Act
Applicable Maryland civil rights statutes

Complainant

I am a single mother, domestic violence survivor, neurodivergent individual, Registered Behavior Technician, author, speaker, and business owner. I am the sole caregiver of twice-exceptional (2e) children, requiring stability, safety, and continuity of care.

I do not fit the stereotype often assigned to families in crisis. I am educated, articulate, tech-literate, and well-documented. Advocacy and articulation do not negate disability, trauma, or civil rights protections.

Nature of the Complaint

Through the combined actions and inactions of multiple Maryland agencies, including but not limited to housing authorities, homelessness prevention services, the District Court system, the MVA, Child Support Enforcement, and affiliated state and county departments, I have been subjected to:

Discriminatory denial of reasonable accommodations
Failure to engage in interactive ADA processes
Housing-related actions with devastating impact
Retaliation and adverse treatment tied to advocacy
Procedural rigidity that ignored documented disability, trauma, and domestic violence
Systemic failures that directly caused loss of income, transportation, and housing stability

These failures did not occur in isolation. Their cumulative impact has placed my family at imminent risk of eviction, homelessness, and further trauma—despite my compliance, documentation, and repeated good-faith efforts to resolve issues.

ADA & Rehabilitation Act Violations

Under ADA Title II and Section 504, public entities are required to:

Provide reasonable accommodations
Modify policies and procedures when necessary
Avoid discrimination based on disability, including invisible and neurodevelopmental disabilities
Refrain from retaliation for asserting rights

I was repeatedly denied meaningful accommodations and treated as “noncompliant” or “undeserving” due to my ability to articulate and self-advocate—an ableist standard that directly violates federal law.

Articulation is not evidence of lack of disability. It is often a survival mechanism developed in response to systemic harm.

Fair Housing Act Violations

Actions and inactions by housing-related entities have:

Failed to prevent a foreseeable housing crisis
Ignored reasonable accommodation requests and context
Created a disparate impact on a disabled, single-parent household
Threatened to redline my family into unsafe or destabilizing environments

I explicitly refuse to be displaced, evicted, or forced into further trauma due to system-caused instability . Housing programs are required to prevent discrimination and not accelerate harm.

Civil Rights & Due Process Concerns

The treatment I have received reflects a broader pattern of discrimination against individuals who are:

Disabled or neurodivergent
Domestic violence survivors
Single parents
Actively advocating within public systems
Involved in legal or administrative disputes

When advocacy becomes grounds for denial of support, civil rights are no longer protected—they are selectively applied.

Impact on Professional Life, Income, and Family Stability

The cumulative failures and discriminatory actions of Maryland state and county systems have caused direct and measurable harm to my professional life, income generation and family stability.

I am an established business owner, advocate, and mentor, and I have built my career in behavioral health as a Registered Behavior Technician (RBT)—a field that requires reliable transportation, physical access to clients, and consistency. The loss of my vehicle and subsequent instability, caused by systemic failures outside my control, has made it impossible for me to continue working in my trained career field, resulting in loss of income and professional standing.

As a single parent to disabled and twice-exceptional children, my inability to access transportation has also disrupted:

required medical appointments and therapies
educational and extracurricular activities essential to my children’s development
college preparation opportunities for my oldest child

These are not optional luxuries—they are necessary supports for disabled children and future economic mobility.

At the same time, housing instability created by agency inaction has placed me in an undesirable position with my landlord, who may reasonably (but incorrectly) perceive nonpayment from me as willful or irresponsible. This financial disruption is the direct result of systemic obstruction, delayed supports, and discriminatory denial of accommodations—not neglect or refusal to meet obligations.

The combined effect has been professional displacement, reputational harm, and family destabilization, forcing me to choose between survival and compliance with systems that failed to uphold their legal responsibilities.

Statement of Position

To be clear:

I am not requesting charity.
I am not seeking special treatment.
I am demanding lawful access to protections, funds, accommodations, and remedies that I am entitled to under federal and state law .

I refuse to lose my home, my livelihood, my safety, or my children’s stability because public systems failed to act appropriately.

I refuse to be redlined into danger.
I refuse to be punished for surviving.
I refuse to be erased because the system decided I am “undeserving.”

Demand for Immediate Relief

I am requesting:

Immediate intervention to halt eviction or housing displacement
Emergency accommodation and stabilization measures
Release or restoration of all funds, benefits, or relief wrongfully delayed or denied
Formal review of agency actions for ADA, FHA, and civil rights compliance
Written confirmation of corrective action

Failure to address these violations may result in escalation to federal oversight bodies, including HUD FHEO, the U.S. Department of Justice Civil Rights Division, and additional legal remedies.

Closing

This complaint is submitted in good faith, with extensive documentation available upon request. My intent is accountability, correction, and protection, not retaliation.

My family deserves safety, stability, and dignity.
And I will not be silent while those rights are violated.

Respectfully,

Author Teliesha.Sharee

How Systems Mirror Narcissistic Abuse — And Why Your Healing Threatens Their Control

Tue, 16 Dec 2025 16:41:30 GMT

Systemic Narcissistic Abuse: When the Institutions Meant to Help Become the Source of Harm

There’s a type of narcissistic abuse that most people don’t talk about because it doesn’t come from a partner, a parent, or a family member.

It comes from systems.

And when you’re neurodivergent or otherwise disabled, a woman, a single parent, or a survivor trying to rebuild your life, systemic narcissistic abuse hits harder than any trauma that one person could ever inflict.

Because there’s no breakup. No blocking. And there's no going no-contact with a government agency.

You’re trapped in a loop run by entities who control your access to basic human needs, such as housing, safety, health care, disability accommodations, transportation and justice.

And when those systems fail you on purpose, the impact can be long-lasting and devastating.

What Is Systemic Narcissistic Abuse?

It’s when an agency or institution behaves just like a narcissistic individual:

Withholding essential support
Blaming you for their failures
Using confusion as a tool of control
Creating impossible requirements
Gaslighting you into believing you're the problem
Punishing you for speaking up
Sabotaging your stability and then acting shocked

If that sounds like an abusive relationship… that’s because it is! Just at a larger scale.

Examples of Systemic Narcissistic Abuse:

1. Withholding accessibility & then blaming you for struggling:

Denying disability accommodations
Refusing to process documentation you’ve already submitted
Losing your records and insisting you “never sent them”

Narcissistic parallel: an abusive partner withholding affection and then calling you “too emotional.”

2. Creating barriers on purpose. Systems often design processes to exhaust you:

Endless paperwork
Delayed appointments
Policy contradictions
Constant referrals with no resolution
“Come back in 30 days” when you’re already in crisis

Narcissistic parallel: setting you up to fail, then using the failure as evidence that you’re incapable.

3. Punishing you for self-advocacy. When you speak up:

Your applications stall
Caseworkers become unresponsive
Supervisors disappear
You’re labeled “difficult” or “non-compliant”

Narcissistic parallel: an abuser retaliating when you enforce boundaries.

4. Targeting the caretaker role. For single mothers, the abuse becomes strategic:

Delays in child support processing
Failure to issue benefits
Refusal to coordinate services
Agencies that use your children’s needs as leverage

Narcissistic parallel: a narcissistic spouse using children as tools of manipulation.

5. Masking incompetence as policy. Instead of admitting wrongdoing, the system:

Redefines rules
“Can’t locate your file”
Claims your paperwork was incomplete
Tells you to restart the entire process

Narcissistic parallel: rewriting history to avoid accountability.

Why Systemic Narcissistic Abuse Is More Damaging:

Because you can’t get away! You can leave a relationship, but you cannot leave the housing authority, the disability office, or the court system when your survival depends on them.

And when multiple systems collapse at once, it creates the illusion that you are the issue, not the institutions.

But truthfully, you can be “perfect on paper” by being educated, motivated, stability-oriented and still live in poverty because the system strategically blocks every path out.

That’s not a personal failure.

That’s by design.

The Panic Narcissistic Systems Feel When You Heal:

When you:

get informed
get organized
get loud
get documentation
get media involved
get advocacy groups engaged

The system loses control. Just like a narcissist, institutions prefer:

people who are overwhelmed
people who comply
people who don’t have support
people who are too exhausted to fight back

Your clarity is their disruption.

Your healing is their threat.

Your documentation is their fear.

Ways to Protect Yourself (and Your Nervous System):

1. Document everything! This includes names , dates, emails, phone calls, screenshots, letters — EVERYTHING.

2. CC supervisors or compliance departments. Systems behave differently when they know you’re not alone.

3. Notify multiple agencies at once. It reduces retaliation and increases accountability.

4. Share your story publicly but safely. Systems operate in the dark and panic under visibility.

5. Name the pattern, not just the incident. It shifts the blame off of you and onto institutional behavior.

Final truth:

What you’re experiencing is not a reflection of your ability. It is a direct reflection of the system’s dysfunction.

Your story matters.
Your clarity matters.
Your healing matters.

And the more people who understand systemic narcissistic abuse and its societal effects, the harder it becomes for these institutions to continue harming families who are already carrying more than enough.

The Real Reason People Are Burning Out — And It’s Not What Companies Think

Thu, 04 Dec 2025 17:34:25 GMT

The Silent Shift Reshaping Today’s Workforce

A quiet shift is happening in workplaces — and most leaders haven’t caught up yet. People aren’t burning out for no reason. They’re burning out because many workplace norms were built on systems that reward urgency, perfectionism, emotional suppression, and sameness. Now those systems are collapsing in real time.

What looks like “performance issues” may actually be:

sensory overwhelm
moral injury
emotional labor
masking
over-functioning in dysfunctional structures

What looks like a “lack of professionalism” is often the result of:

policies that ignore neurodivergent needs
cultures that silence emotional intelligence
expectations built on outdated patriarchal/white-supremacy norms

The workforce is not becoming weaker, but it is becoming more aware. Employees today are refusing to sacrifice their mental health, dignity or humanity for a paycheck — and that’s not a crisis. That’s evolution.

The companies that will survive the next decade are the ones willing to redesign company culture instead of blaming people for buckling under systems that were never built for them.

This is the era to rethink how we define “strong,” “productive,” and being a “fit” because the old definitions no longer fit anyone.

#telieshasharee

The Hidden Connection Between Clair Gifts, Neurodivergence, Narcissistic Abuse & the Collapse of Old Systems

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 17:07:46 GMT

When Your Inner World Sees What Others Don’t

For a long time, women like us have been told:

“you're too sensitive”
“you're imagining things”
“you're overreacting”
“you read too much into things”

However, neurodivergent women are often born with a combination of heightened intuitive gifts, trauma-shaped awareness and generational wisdom that society doesn’t know how to categorize.

Instead of calling it what it is- intuitive intelligence, they simply label it as “too much.”

If you’ve ever felt like you can’t turn your intuition off, like you sense people’s motives instantly, or like the world feels louder and heavier than it does for “normal” people, this article is for you.

You’re not imagining it.
You’re not broken.
You’re awakening.

And your gifts are not random — they are responding to a global shift.

Why Neurodivergent Women Are Often Spiritually Gifted:

ADHD, Autism, and other neurodivergent characteristics sharpen certain “clair” abilities. For example, c laircognizance is a clear knowing. Neurodivergent women can read patterns instantly because we connect dots that others can’t. We can also sense danger or manipulation before it’s visible.

Clairsentience is a clear feeling because our sensory bandwidth is higher.
We can feel moods, tension and shifts in energy. We pick up on what people aren’t saying. Clairaudience is a clear hearing that can show up as:

sudden clarity
messages while journaling
hearing an intuitive “yes” or “no” without words

Clairvoyance is a clear seeing that can look like a h yper-visual imagination and/or vivid dreams. This means that we can “see” outcomes and envision possibilities. Neurodivergence amplifies spiritual intuition, but society pathologizes what it can’t monetize.

How Narcissistic & Abusive Systems Target Gifted Neurodivergent Women:

Neurodivergent women who are spiritually gifted, intuitive and empathetic are the primary targets of narcissists — both in relationships and in institutions. Why? Because we have innate capabilities to:

notice contradictions
question power
sense manipulation immediately
disrupt toxic cycles
refuse to comply quietly

We are also walking lie detectors. This is why narcissistic partners AND narcissistic institutions (government, housing, education & medical systems) try to dim us. Despite that, something shifted around 2020–2025 because t he systems that relied on our silence are now breaking down. We’re seeing:

government shutdowns
mass resignations
healthcare failures exposed
people leaving abusive partners
collective spiritual awakenings
record levels of neurodivergence diagnosis
social media calling out narcissism
the collapse of “just be quiet and comply” culture

Your intuition isn’t random. It’s rising because the world built on lies is collapsing.

Why Spiritual Gifts Feel Stronger After Trauma or Awakening:

When you survive traumas such as:

narcissistic abuse
DV situations
medical neglect
systemic failure
childhood trauma

your senses become hyper-attuned as survival tools. What people call “gifts” began as adaptations, but now that you're healing, those adaptations became skills, intuitive intelligence and purpose-driven guidance. For e xample:

You sense someone's intentions → trauma gift becomes discernment
You see through manipulation → trauma gift becomes advocacy

Your survival mechanisms can lead to your calling.

What This Means for Collective Awakening:

Women like us, who are intuitive, neurodivergent, spiritually attuned and anti-narcissist are the frontline of the new era. We’re part of the dismantling of outdated systems like:

patriarchy
white supremacy
medical gaslighting
government negligence
narcissistic leadership
hustle culture
survival-based identity

Your purpose is not to quietly endure. Your purpose is to expose, educate, empower and evolve. This is why your gifts feel “louder” now. This is why you attract people seeking guidance. This is why your words resonate. This is why narcissists fear you. You are both part of the collapse and part of the reconstruction. ✨

The Narcissist’s Jealousy of Joy: Why They Resent Your Healing

Mon, 24 Nov 2025 17:05:07 GMT

When Your Healing Outgrows Their Control

When you begin healing, narcissists start to panic. They lose control the moment you find peace that they can’t disrupt.

A narcissist’s power thrives in your confusion. The moment you gain mental clarity; is the moment they lose access. That’s why they downplay your progress, weaponize your emotions against you, and attempt to reenter when you start rebuilding your boundaries.

Healing is an act of rebellion. It’s the radical decision of choosing your peace over their chaos, softness over control. When they can’t reach you emotionally, they’ll try to provoke you indirectly — often through children, mutual friends, or social media.

But here’s the truth: their jealousy of your healing is proof of your growth. Keep going. The peace that you’re protecting is worth every boundary you reinforce.

When Intelligence Feels Like Isolation: The Hidden Struggles of Neurodivergent Women

Mon, 24 Nov 2025 16:41:16 GMT

When Excellence Comes at the Expense of Authenticity

Usually beginning with our childhood, we were told that we were “too much.” Too emotional, too outspoken, too sensitive, too analytical, too everything. Yet for many neurodivergent women, those traits are not flaws — they are survival strategies that were misunderstood, especially by the people closest to us.

High-achieving women with ADHD or autism often mask their true selves to meet impossible expectations, whether familial or societal. We learn early to adapt, such as to be polished but not too loud, intelligent but not intimidating, capable but never “difficult.”
But eventually, the emotional tax of masking takes its toll. We burn out, we tend to self-isolate, and we question whether the world was ever designed for us in the first place.

The healing journey begins with unmasking, which is giving ourselves permission to exist as we are unapologetically. That can look like redefining productivity, rejecting perfectionism and embracing our softness and sensitivity as strength.
Our innate brilliance is not found in how well we hide, rather it’s in how boldly we exist once we learn that it is okay to stop performing.

Proof of Pain: When Survival Requires Paperwork

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 19:40:33 GMT

Surviving Shouldn't Be a Full-Time Job

There is a cruel irony in how much paperwork it takes just to prove you’re struggling.

To access housing? Paperwork.
To delay a court date because you’re caregiving with no support? Paperwork.
To get basic support for your children? Paperwork.
To explain why you couldn’t keep up with bills that the system helped create? More paperwork.

Each form asks you to relive your trauma. Each document requires you to explain why you’re disabled, underpaid, carless, or behind. And if you’re neurodivergent, this cycle becomes a closed loop of executive dysfunction, burnout, and despair.

I am tired.
Not lazy. Not unmotivated.
Tired.

Tired of a system that says “Black Lives Matter” — until that Black life checks all of the DEI boxes.
Tired of “All Lives Matter” — except when you need accommodations or fair legal treatment.
Tired of “Save the Children” — unless those children have complex needs and don't fit into a box.

The world demands that we show up, even as it continues to shut us out.

For the past (almost) year, I have been grieving the loss of my mother while facing a domino effect of institutional failures:

Fired just 4 days after she unexpectedly passed.
Retaliated against for speaking up for a mistreated Autistic child and his mother.
Lost my vehicle because the system would not remove my abuser from the title.
Denied housing help, medical care, legal aid, and justice.
Now life continues to pile upon me, and I see no relief.

This isn’t a personal failure.
This is systemic neglect.

And almost every day, I must prove it to someone new.

The amount of documentation it takes just to survive is dehumanizing. It doesn’t give me time to heal. It doesn’t give me time to grieve. It barely gives me time to work on my business or raise my children, let alone dream of a future.

But here’s the truth:

✨ I deserve peace.
✨ I deserve stability.
✨ I deserve abundance that doesn’t come at the cost of my sanity.

And so do you.

If you’ve ever felt like the system is intentionally wearing you down — you’re not imagining it.

If you’re exhausted by having to relive your trauma to “qualify” for help — you are not alone.

But I believe that we are not here just to survive.

We are here to disrupt , to rewrite , and to rise .

This is not a sob story. This is a testimony in progress.
And I refuse to let it end here

Big Dog (poem)

Thu, 15 Aug 2024 22:47:46 GMT

Big Dog (poem)

I was so deep in survival mode

That it impacted my ability to write.

I am a writer by nature, but I was so traumatized

That my words struggled to come out right.

That was one of the worst awakenings I had,

Because I felt like a shell of my true self.

I vowed never to let myself get that low again,

And I would never give that power to someone else.

I don’t know if it’s the neurodivergence

Or the simple fact that I lacked guidance

On how to embody a woman strong in her power,

Without seeming crazy in lieu of passionate or without the use of violence.

I’ve done all my shadow work.

I’ve had several dark nights of the soul.

I’ve lived, learned and died in repetitive cycles

And it began to take its toll.

I’m no longer putting up with shit I don’t want to.

I refuse to overwork myself to death.

I only entertain who and what makes me happy.

I refuse to give until there’s nothing left.

I’m walking into a season of rediscovered womanhood.

To finally become who I am meant to be.

And finally get rid of the role of Big Dog-

The nigga that still resides inside of me.

Big Dog is a go-getter who learns lessons the hard way,

But I desire a life where the teaching comes with ease.

Because I’ve suffered too many seasons.

Where the pain had me crying on my knees.

So many harsh lessons,

From those who were supposed to show me love.

All that taught me was what love wasn’t,

But I never learned what it was.

What does it feel like to be loved

Not for what you bring to an imaginary table?

Don’t love me because I’m a hustler,

So I can pick up your slack because you’re not able.

Struggling and being in my Big Dog energy

Is not the aligned path for me.

I’m a flower that blooms in sunlight,

Not darkness, stress and misery.

I flourish in my femininity.

I have no desire to be a hardworking man.

I am meant for a soft life only,

And I will no longer deviate from the plan.

Author Teliesha.Sharee

Manifest Your Way Out of Struggle: How to Combat Darkness When You Can’t See the Light

Mon, 12 Aug 2024 21:46:24 GMT

Manifest Your Way Out of Struggle: How to Combat Darkness When You Can’t See the Light

I’ve had to manifest my way out of the darkness so many times in life. I’ve been through the darkness so much that we became friends. It’s like when you are forced to constantly be around your enemy and realize that they don’t scare you as much as you thought. This is not to encourage you to stay in darkness. This is to encourage you that when you can be comfortable there, you can’t be defeated. If you freak out (mentally) in periods of darkness, you are letting the bully win. You must train your mind to not show fear. Remember, bullies can smell fear, so you can’t fake this. Energy doesn’t lie. When you can coexist in a civilized relationship with darkness, it will no longer scare you. When it no longer scares you, the light returns faster.

So, when the darkness of life (struggle periods, mental health, finances, illness, etc.) tries to engulf you, do not run from it. Running from quicksand will not help you. Stand strong in your mental power. If it helps to think of it in a literal way: imagine the quicksand being depression, anxiety, despair, burnout, etc. Standing strong in your physical power would be to not run from the quicksand, but just protect yourself with the only weapon you have, which is yourself. So physically, you may curl into a ball, protect your head and just trust that it’ll be enough for the quicksand to not swallow you up. This is why I said not to run from the quicksand/darkness. It would be a moot point. To stand strong in your mental power during this point, would be taking extra good care of yourself in a holistic way. Holistic means you are covering all the bases, and not just focusing on one area. You need to be strong for battle, otherwise the darkness will scare you more and you’ll be stuck there longer.

If you remember nothing else from this, please get yourself very familiar with the law of detachment. This is not an easy part of the healing journey, but it is the most important of the process. I say this because during periods of darkness, you may experience a lot of loss or a series of unexpected events. If you struggle with being able to detach (let go of control), then this part of your healing journey will delay you from moving forward. You will remain in the same cycle of whatever you’re dealing with until you literally learn to say “fuck it” and let go of any person, place or situation that doesn’t belong. You will either stay in the darkness or you will leave and keep returning until you release what you want, to get what you’re meant to have. I don’t teach other people what I don’t fact-check myself. Sometimes my fact-checking comes in the form of experience vs. research.

It took a lot of work to get here, but I am at a life point where I now just flow. Whatever/whoever comes, comes. And the same for whatever has to go. I can honestly say, that during times when I have done that, I received the upgrade, sometimes immediately. An upgrade can look like:

1. You end a toxic relationship and meet the love of your life

2. You move out of a place you love, but have outgrown to be relocated somewhere better

3. You cut a negative person out of your life and new opportunities start rolling in

I desire a life of wealth and ease, where my worth is not determined by productivity, and I can afford my lifestyle by doing things that don’t feel like work. A period of darkness could be learning to live that way BEFORE having wealth. For example, if you desire to not work hard, don’t fall apart when you end up out of work. While you’re over there panicking and spending every waking hour to find another job, you are working hard. That means you will not let your body experience the feeling that you said you wanted. You will not allow your body to relax. By hindering this, you are hindering the wealth that will enable you to not be able to work, because your body instantly goes into panic mode. The sooner you detach from whatever person, place or behavior needs to go, then you can welcome in whatever you desire. It needs space to come in because you don’t want it tainted with the wrong things.

When you can get comfortable in the darkness, it will lose its stronghold on you, and you will get what you want faster. Getting comfortable in a period of working less would look like using that time to make changes in your life, so that when you no longer have to work hard, you already have a life prepared, so it will not feel like a complete shock. When it feels like complete shock, if you’ve experienced trauma in life, this sudden shift can feel scary, and you will subconsciously delay it from fully reaching you. It is important to just roll with life sometimes. This will look different to everyone, because each situation is unique.

In this case, to prepare for your new life, you should use that time to live like the ideal version of yourself. If you didn’t have to work every day, what would you do? Would you work out at 5 am? Would you sit at the park all day? Would you volunteer in your community? Whatever that looks like for you, start doing it now. That way, when wealth comes in, you will be able to live your life in the same way you have been doing, but with more money. So, if you wake up at 5 am to do a home workout and stay consistent, then when your wealth reaches you, you can afford a gym membership or some home gym equipment or a home with a custom-built gym and a pool. It’s entirely up to you, despite what the darkness tries to make you believe.

Story Time:

I was in a homeless shelter at one point in my life. My primary manifestations at that time were to:

1. To work in a certain hospital as a newly licensed healthcare worker.

2. Move from the shelter without downgrading my lifestyle. I refused to move to the hood based on affordability, despite pressure from the shelter staff to settle on whatever was available.

I did all of the necessary external work to achieve my goals, such as job-searching, further education, etc. However, if your life does not appear to move in the direction that you desire, it may mean that you need to go deeper. To help manifest my way out of my situation, I used a combination of detachment and delusion to create my desired reality. Delusion is not a negative term in manifestation. Delusion enables you to go beyond the limits that are placed on you by other people or your own beliefs. The delusion in this case served me when I just refused to believe that I couldn’t accomplish something that I wanted to do. I had shelter employees and other residents tell me that I would be unable to get a job at a well-known hospital. Staff members repeatedly mentioned how hard it was to get your foot in the door. Residents would tell me that they knew somebody’s sister’s boyfriend’s niece who has been trying for several years to get an interview with no luck. I was in that shelter for around 90 days. Within that time, I was offered a contract position at the hospital. Within my first month of employment, I was being interviewed for a direct position with the hospital system, doing the same work for higher pay. This was after added delusion against my new coworkers who claimed it was nearly impossible to go from contractor to employee if already offered the same position through the staff agency.

Within three months, I was proving doubters wrong left and right. At the time, it seemed that things were crashing all around me. Between health issues and community living nuances, life was not easy for me. Therefore, I did not realize that I was living in the middle of exactly what I asked for. When I moved out of the shelter, I moved to an affluent area and remained in the healthcare field. I got exactly what I wanted by ignoring what other people had to say, even if they meant well. One of my favorite expressions is to “be delulu until it comes true”. This means to be delusional until your desire is your reality. Detachment and delusion can catapult you into an upgraded existence. I’m living proof that it’s possible.

Talk to Me (poem)

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 23:44:26 GMT

Talk to Me (poem)

Talk to me with happiness

Like you couldn’t wait to see me after a long day.

Talk to me with intent

Be direct and mean the words you say.

Talk to me with passion

Let me hear what lights you up.

Talk to me with commitment

Reassure me that it’s only us.

Talk to me with excitement

Like I make your world a tad more bright.

Talk to me with hunger

Like only I can ease your appetite.

Talk to me with ease

Like no conversation between us is ever too hard.

Talk to me with tenderness

Like you hold me in the highest regard.

Talk to me with empathy

Because you feel me enough to understand.

Talk to me with strength

Like I can trust you to never let go of my hand.

Talk to me with peace

Like disagreements don’t lead to war.

Talk to me with consistency

Keep using the same tone as before.

Talk to me with simplicity

Be clear, concise and direct.

Talk to me with equality

Like you got some sense and some respect.

Talk to me with longing

Like you can’t get me off your mind.

Talk to me with safety

Like within your arms everything will be fine.

Talk to me with stability.

I love your ambition and your drive.

Talk to me with love

Like I’m the most important person alive.

Ascension (poem)

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 23:34:04 GMT

Ascension (poem)

I feel like I’ve aged because I’m ahead of my time.

With no one to talk to about what I’ve discovered-

That the world as we know it is all based on a lie,

And all the rabbit holes that I have uncovered.

So I self-isolate because I feel lonely,

Like no one else understands

The pressure that comes with arriving “early”

And waiting for everyone else to land.

Their limiting beliefs are not my reality

And I don’t subscribe to their inaccurate perceptions.

I’ve mastered the power of release and detachment

And now know that they’re just characters within the lessons.

I have to keep reminding myself

That it’s okay to be first,

And know that I was never meant to follow,

But to help lead this new earth.

It’s like old me didn’t die,

But yet, a new me has been rebirthed.

And I don’t know why,

It feels good…although it hurts.

And I know it’s just ascension-

And this is how things work.

Because I had to escape the matrix,

Before the shit got worse.

So I made the difficult choice to go within

And peel away the layers before it was a trend,

To relearn my intuition,

And to be my own best friend.

My dreams, visions and experiences

Have propelled me several years ahead.

My eyes have been wide open

And now enlightenment has replaced dread.

When I reached the point in my journey

Where I wondered what came next,

It felt like I had spent many years studying

And that I’ve more than passed this test.

All I know is that I’m ready

To finally experience my heaven on earth.

I can’t wrap my mind around the narrative

That there’s no heaven unless we die first.

I did all the inner work,

And released connections that had expired.

It was all vibrational and never personal-

My soul was just so tired.

Within the seasons of silence,

I made the choice to rise beyond what was.

I walked a path that would frighten many,

So I could break down doors just because.

I also learned the importance of cleansing,

And I learned to be accepting of an empty space.

I had to gently remind myself that space was good,

And there was no need to rush to replace.

For one day the empty spaces will be filled with people and energies

That are more aligned with my new path.

And then I’ll finally understand

Why the old things couldn’t last.

The more my awareness expanded,

The more I found my sacred fire,

Ignited by my calling to

Educate. Empower. & Inspire.

Beyond the veil, I sought to find

The truth that once alluded me.

I came to grips with the reality that

Only I could remain true to me.

My heart is unbound, my spirit is free

And the chains of my past no longer bind me.

There has to be others. I know they exist.

So, I wait for my soul tribe to find me.

Paths that once were familiar

Now feel so estranged.

I can no longer fit into a world

Where I feel that everything has changed.

The illusions of the world are breaking

and afterwards comes the mend.

There is beauty in new beginnings,

Because the old ways had to end.

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Grow (a poem)

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 15:32:55 GMT

Grow (poem)

I’m a flower

Struggling to grow in a too-small environment.

I’m meant to grow tall in an open field.

But they’d rather stick me in a jar.

And say, “no, we don’t want you to get that big

Because then you won’t fit here anymore.

And you’ll leave.

And we…I don’t want you to leave.

I love you.

Stay here with me.

It’ll be cozy.

Please, don’t grow.”

L-Theanine: Is it Good for ADHD?

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 18:06:17 GMT

L-Theanine and ADHD: exploring the potential and the reality.

As a both a behavioral health professional and vocal neurodiversity advocate, with a personal and professional understanding of ADHD, people often ask me questions about different supplements and their potential benefits for managing symptoms. In my social media groups, one of the most common inquiries is about L-theanine, which is an amino acid found in green tea.

What is L-theanine?

L-theanine is a naturally occurring amino acid found primarily in green tea. It's known for its calming and relaxing properties and has been linked to several health benefits, including improved sleep quality, reduced anxiety & cognitive enhancement.

L-theanine for ADHD: What does the research say?

The research on L-theanine's effectiveness for ADHD is currently limited and inconclusive! While some studies have shown promising results, they often involve small sample sizes and lack long-term data.

Here's a summary of the research:

Combined with caffeine: Some studies suggest that combining L-theanine with caffeine may improve attention and focus in children with ADHD. The calming effects of L-theanine may moderate the jittery side effects sometimes associated with caffeine alone.
Limited individual effect: Studies focusing solely on L-theanine haven't shown significant benefits for ADHD symptoms.

Important considerations:

Talk to your doctor first: Before introducing any new supplement, including L-theanine, it's crucial to consult with your healthcare professional, especially if you are already taking medication for ADHD. They can advise on potential interactions, dosage, and potential benefits based on your individual health history.
Not a replacement for evidence-based treatment: L-theanine, or any other supplement for that matter, should not be considered a replacement for established, evidence-based ADHD treatment plans. Treatments like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and medication, in consultation with a healthcare professional, remain the first line of defense in managing ADHD.

The takeaway:

While the research on L-theanine and ADHD is ongoing, there's currently insufficient evidence to conclusively recommend it as a standalone treatment. However, it's important to remember that individual experiences can vary, and some individuals may find L-theanine helpful when used along with their existing ADHD treatment plan.

If you're considering trying L-theanine, remember to approach it with caution, consult your healthcare professional, and maintain open communication about your experiences.

Additional resources:

National Institute of Mental Health: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd
CHADD: https://chadd.org/
Attention Deficit Disorder Association: https://add.org/

How To Start Journaling (A Beginner's Guide to Understanding Your Inner World)

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 17:32:00 GMT

The benefits of journaling and how to get started.

In today's world, with so much constantly going on, it's so easy to feel overwhelmed and disconnected from our inner selves!

The good news is that journaling can be a powerful and accessible tool for self-discovery, reflection & growth.

Whether you're seeking clarity, or you need a safe space to express yourself, this beginner's guide will give you the tools needed to start your journaling journey.

Why Journal?

There are several well-documented benefits to journaling. Here are a few reasons to consider picking up a pen and paper:

Journaling provides a space to explore your thoughts, feelings, and emotions without judgment. This can help you understand yourself better & identify recurring patterns in your behavior. https://amzn.to/3UW9rDF (Shadow Work Journal)
Studies show that journaling can be an effective way to manage stress and anxiety. By expressing your anxieties on paper, you can gain perspective and release some of the emotional burden. https://amzn.to/49TMvJK (Anxiety Breakthrough Journal)
Journaling is a great way to spark creativity & brainstorm solutions to problems. Unrestricted writing allows your mind to wander freely and explore new ideas and perspectives.
Keeping a journal allows you to record precious memories and life experiences. You can look back and reflect on past mistakes and triumphs.

Getting Started:

Journaling doesn't require any special equipment or a specific format. All you need is a notebook (or even loose pieces of paper) and a pen that feels comfortable to write with. I have sooo many pretty pens in different colors just for journaling! I wouldn't steer you wrong, pretty pens matter!

Here are some tips to get you started:

Start by setting small, achievable goals, like writing for 5-10 minutes a day. Consistency is key, so don't feel pressured to write a novel every day. https://amzn.to/4c9M4Np (Goals Journal)
Choose a quiet, comfy space where you won't be interrupted. Whether it's first thing in the morning, before bed, or during your lunch break, find a time that fits your schedule & allows you to focus. Tell the kiddos to "shhh"! ��
Journaling is for you only! Don't worry about grammar rules or spelling mistakes. Just let your thoughts flow freely and authentically.
If you ever feel stuck, guided journaling prompts can be a great way to get your creative juices flowing. These prompts can be anything from "What are you grateful for today?" to "What is one challenge you're facing right now?"
There are many different ways to journal. Some people prefer free-writing, while others like bullet points journaling or writing lists. Experiment & find the one that feels more natural and enjoyable for you.

Ready to Get Started?!

Remember, there's no right or wrong way to journal! The most important thing is to find an approach that works for you and stick with it. You might be surprised by the insights you gain & the positive impact it has on your life.

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I hope this blog post has encouraged you to embrace the power of journaling. Happy writing! ✍��

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Empowered Neurodivergent Kids: Understanding Their Hidden Superpowers (A Journey of Self-Love & Acceptance)

Sat, 24 Feb 2024 16:41:55 GMT

Empowering neurodivergent children through self-acceptance.

Imagine a world where being "different" doesn't lead to confusion, frustration, or judgment. A world where neurodiversity isn't a struggle, but a superpower waiting to be realized. As a millennial mom and a passionate advocate for neurodiversity, I see this world every day. It's a world where I get to witness the magic unfold when children who are blessed with unique perspectives and potential, are empowered to embrace their true selves.

Are you also a mom on this journey? Can you see the sparkle in your kiddo's eyes despite their struggles with executive function, or the emotional rollercoasters? You know they have something extraordinary within them, but the world often throws curveballs, making it harder for them to navigate and embrace the way their brain is uniquely wired.

This is where I come in! (insert confetti & 90's style studio audience applause)

At Monarch Creative Industries, I'm not just a provider of tools and strategies; I'm your partner in this beautiful journey of self-love and acceptance. I understand your struggles firsthand because I've walked a similar path with my own family. I believe in the power of understanding, connection, and creative expression to unlock the potential in every neurodivergent child.

Unlocking the Superpower:

1. Understanding the Spectrum:

Our journey begins with embracing neurodiversity. It's not a label, but a spectrum of brain wirings that make each individual unique. Understanding your child's unique strengths & challenges, whether it's ADHD, Autism, or another neurodivergence, is the first step towards creating a foundation of self-love and acceptance.

2. Building Confidence & Self-Esteem:

Living in a world that values conformity is stressful for neurodivergent kids. They can feel misunderstood, judged & their self-esteem takes is negatively affected. That's why I focus on helping them:

Develop self-awareness : We explore their unique thinking patterns & emotional responses, to help understand and accept their individual strengths and challenges.
Master executive function skills : We tackle organization, planning & time management, which empowers them to take control of their daily lives and overcome those frustrating struggles.
Embrace emotional regulation: We explore healthy ways of coping for managing their big emotions, build resilience and have the confidence to navigate difficult situations.
Find their voice : I encourage self-advocacy, teaching them to communicate their needs and navigate social situations with ease, ensuring they are heard & understood.

3. The Power of Creative Expression:

My approach goes beyond just techniques. I believe in the transformative and healing power of creative expression. Art, journaling, and storytelling are tools for self-discovery, allowing your child to explore their emotions, express their unique perspective, and release their inner potential. Imagine the confidence boost they'll get when they see their own masterpiece come to life!

More Than Just a Guide:

Joining forces with me on this journey means you're not alone. You'll become part of a supportive community where families like ours can connect, share experiences, celebrate successes, and find encouragement through every step. Together, we can create a ripple effect of positive change, where neurodiversity is not just understood, but celebrated.

Ready to embark on this adventure of self-love and acceptance? Contact me today for a free consultation and discover how I can support your family in unlocking your child's hidden superpowers. Remember, every child has the potential to shine brightly!

P.S. Share this post with other moms who might be on the same journey. Together, we can create a world where every child feels empowered and embraced for their unique brilliance!

Voice (poem)

Fri, 23 Feb 2024 18:19:09 GMT

A poem about vocal limitations.

I didn’t always like my voice.

So I became adept at writing down words.

Because when I used my voice,

I didn’t always like the sounds I heard.

They told me I sounded like my mother,

because I could articulate well on the phone.

And that would’ve been a compliment,

if her phone voice meant a happy home.

I didn’t always like my voice.

So I became adept at writing down words.

Because when I used my voice,

I didn’t always like the sounds I heard.

Grown men would tell me my voice was “sexy”.

“Thank you, I guess...but I am sixteen.”

So when you say my voice is “sexy”,

what exactly do you mean?

I didn’t always like my voice.

So I became adept at writing down words.

Because when I used my voice,

I didn’t always like the sounds I heard.

I was told my voice was sultry,

or monotone, or too deep.

Whenever I opened my mouth, the fools would rush in,

and it altered my wanting to speak.

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Polar Bears (poem)

Fri, 23 Feb 2024 17:56:57 GMT

A poem about realization.

My soul bleeds from my pen

so that everyone can see.

The parts that I can't show them,

that coexist inside of me.

I rarely show anyone

the actual depths of my soul.

The surface level annoyances

are as far as most are willing to go.

Yet somehow, you managed to infiltrate.

You saw way more than most.

You sauntered through my darkness untouched.

You sat and made yourself acquainted with my ghosts.

Some things were destined to occur.

Apparently, my heart needed to break.

In retrospect, I learned that loving you

was never the mistake.

If we would've continued our facade of happiness

in the so-called love and life that we had built,

I would have never learned from all the lessons,

or freed myself from all the guilt.

I now understand that I was a lamb to a wolf.

And you were the narcissist with several supplies.

But I was the most outspoken one-

and that was a no-no in your eyes.

Therefore, I received the worst treatment,

and I endured because I felt I had no choice.

You did everything to silence me...

You always hated when I used my voice.

And when I finally walked away,

all that remained with you was the weakest one.

I was strong enough to sever the soul tie,

that kept us attached but suffering like polar bears in the sun.

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ADHD Adulting 101: Increase Your Dopamine with These Hacks | Teliesha.Sharee

Sun, 04 Feb 2024 18:24:57 GMT

Try These Expert Tips for Increasing Dopamine in ADHD Adults!

ADHD Adulting 101: Increase Your Dopamine with These Hacks | Teliesha.Sharee

Do you ever find yourself struggling with that sweet, sometimes elusive dopamine in your grown-up ADHD brain? You're not alone! As a seasoned pro juggling mental health advocacy, behavioral therapy, and the ever-demanding digital marketing world (with ADHD myself!), so I can relate to the constant dance between seeking stimulation and finding focus.

Don't stress, friends! Today, we'll dive into some dope-amine hacks (see what I did there?��) specifically designed for our millennial minds to boost motivation, conquer challenges, and thrive, not just survive.

Remember, I'm not a doctor, so these are tips, not prescriptions. Always consult a professional for personalized advice. ‼️

1. Embrace the Novelty: Monotony+ ADHD=Boring! Our brains crave newness, so mix things up! Try a new workout class, learn a new skill, explore a different neighborhood. Spark that curiosity and watch your dopamine dance! My brain is a spicy mix of AuDHD and I tend to enjoy learning new skills and adding more certifications under my belt. I find that I learn best when self-taught and self-paced, so I have a lot of knowledge about various passion subjects and hyperfixations on my quest for dopamine.

2. Conquer Small Wins: Big goals are cool and all, but they can feel overwhelming. Try breaking them down into bite-sized tasks and celebrate each victory, no matter how small. This is important, because the dopamine reward for each "win" will fuel your progress! Celebrate*Win*Repeat*

3. Get Physical, Get Happy: Exercise is a dopamine powerhouse! Whether it's a kickboxing session, a mindful yoga flow, or a nature walk, get your body moving and notice how your mood (and focus!) will improve. ‍It's important to exercise especially when you feel uninspired to do so. That is your ADHD brain trying to trick you out of something good for you so that you'll be caught in the cycle of feeling like a failure, beating yourself up mentally and then still not exercising because now you feel like a failure. It's a vicious cycle. It's draining. It's ADHD reality. It sucks. Even if you just take a walk around your apartment building, your neighborhood or lift some weights, it's important that you do something. Anything. Just. Get. Moving.

4. Master the Art of Distraction: This is ironic, because usually we are trying to fight against our brains to NOT be distracted. However, sometimes, even the most fun or engaging task can lose its appeal aka our interest. Make sure you take planned breaks! Listen to uplifting music (something with good vibes!), do some quick stretches, or engage in a short, guided meditation. Give your brain a reset and then come back energized.

5. Connect & Create: Social interaction & creative expression are dopamine goldmines! Connect with some friends, join a club, write, paint, dance - whatever ignites your creative spark. Share your passions and watch your joy (and dopamine!) soar. ✨

Bonus Tip: Take Screen Breaks: Technology can be both a blessing and a curse. Schedule tech-free zones to avoid constant stimulation overload and give your brain the space to recharge. Mom transparency: I do this with my ADHD kiddos daily. It is required that we all take a screen break, and there is a noticeable difference in everyone's energy and behaviors. We typically use this time to go outside, read a book, do some form of art or a hands-on activity, etc. I cannot recommend this tip enough!

Remember, you are not your ADHD. These are just tools to help you work with your unique brain, not against it . (I preach the importance of this ALL the time!) Experiment, find what works for you, and celebrate your unique journey!

Now go out there, conquer your day, and keep that dopamine flowing!

P.S. Share your own ADHD hacks and dopamine boosters in the comments below! Let's build a supportive community of millennial masterminds with these helpful tips to increase dopamine in ADHD adults! Send this article to a friend who may be newly diagnosed and struggling.

P.P.S. Want to dive deeper? Check out my other articles and resources on mental health and neurodiversity!

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Opening the Book on Understanding: Children's Literature About Autism

Sat, 03 Feb 2024 23:45:51 GMT

Opening the Book on Understanding: Children's Literature About Autism ��

As a behavioral health professional, author, and strong advocate for neurodiversity, I'm passionate about bridging the gap between understanding and acceptance. One powerful tool in this journey is children's literature. By sharing stories that reflect the experiences of those on the Autism spectrum, we can foster empathy, build bridges & empower young minds to embrace their unique strengths.

Today, I want to highlight some books that beautifully navigate the complexities of Autism for young readers:

1. 123 Autism and Me by Teliesha.Sharee: This vibrant, lyrical picture book offers a window into the world through the eyes of a child with Autism. Through her poetic voice, we experience the sensory delights and challenges of from a child's perspective, celebrating their individual strengths and journeys,

2. The Girl Who Thought in Pictures: The Story of Dr. Temple Grandin by Julia Finley: This captivating biography unveils the extraordinary life of Dr. Temple Grandin, a prominent scientist and advocate on the Autism spectrum. Through clear, engaging language, the book celebrates her unique thinking style, resilience, and groundbreaking contributions to the field of animal welfare.

Books are just one piece of the puzzle! Here are some additional tips to foster understanding and acceptance:

Open conversations: Encourage open and honest conversations about Autism with children, addressing their questions and concerns with sensitivity and accuracy.
Seek diverse perspectives: Explore books, movies, and documentaries that offer a variety of perspectives on Autism, showcasing the unique experiences of people.
Celebrate differences: Highlight the strengths and unique qualities of individuals on the Autism spectrum, creating a culture of acceptance & appreciation for neurodiversity.

As a neurodivergent ADHD specialist and mental health advocate, I understand the importance of finding ways to naturally boost dopamine levels in adults as well! Look out for my next blog post where I'll be sharing practical strategies to increase dopamine and support focus and well-being for adults with ADHD!

Remember, fostering empathy and understanding begins with small steps. By sharing inclusive stories and celebrating differences, we can create a more inclusive and accepting world for everyone.

Warmly,

Teliesha.Sharee, Author & Neurodiversity Advocate

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I hope this post inspires you to explore the world of children's literature focused on Autism and sparks important conversations! ��

Finding the Right Harmony 🎧

Sat, 03 Feb 2024 23:13:55 GMT

Headphones for Kids with Autism | Teliesha.Sharee ��

As a behavior therapist, Autism mom and neurodiversity advocate, I understand firsthand the unique challenges faced by children on the spectrum. Sensory overload is a common hurdle, with loud noises often leading to anxiety, meltdowns, or difficulty focusing. That's where headphones for kids with Autism can be a game changer.

Think beyond just listening to music! These headphones can become tools for managing sensory input, creating safe spaces, and fostering focus. They can:

Block out overwhelming sounds: From noisy classrooms to crowded restaurants, headphones offer a layer of protection from auditory overload.
Provide calming sensory input: Choose headphones with features like noise-canceling or soothing nature sounds to create a personalized calming environment, depending on your child's needs and preferences.
Support focus and concentration: Blocking distractions allows children to better engage in learning activities or quiet playtime.
Promote self-regulation: Empower children to control their sound environment, fostering a sense of agency and independence.

Not all headphones are created equal! Here are some key features to consider:

Comfort and Fit: Look for lightweight, adjustable designs that won't irritate sensitive ears. (super important!) Opt for soft, breathable materials and headbands that won't cause pressure.
Volume Control: Choose headphones with built-in volume limiters to prevent hearing damage. Look for options with customizable settings to cater to individual needs.
Durability: Moms know that kids can be rough on their belongings. Be sure to find sturdy, good-quality headphones that can withstand bumps and drops.
Noise-Canceling: Although not essential, noise-canceling headphones can be pretty helpful in blocking out external noise.
Additional Features: Consider features like wireless connectivity, microphone options, and long battery life for added convenience.

Remember, it's all about individual needs! Experiment with different types & features to find what works best for your child. You can also seek recommendations from therapists or occupational therapists familiar with sensory sensitivities.

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Although headphones are a valuable tool, they're not a magic solution. It's important that you remember to do these things as well:

Open communication: Talk to your child about their sensory needs & preferences. Let them choose their headphones and music whenever possible.
Gradual introduction: Start by using headphones in short bursts in quiet environments before transitioning to louder or busier settings.
Balance is key: Encourage breaks from headphones to avoid over-stimulation or isolation.
Seek professional guidance: If you're unsure where to start, consult a therapist or audiologist for personalized recommendations.

By understanding the unique needs of children with Autism and choosing the right headphones, we can empower them to navigate the world with greater comfort, focus & confidence. As a mom who gets it and an advocate, I believe it's our responsibility to create a world where sensory sensitivities are understood and accommodated.

What are your experiences with headphones for kids with Autism? Share your thoughts and tips in the comments below!

P.S. Don't forget to check out my online bookstore for more resources on Autism and other mental health topics. ��

Warmly,

Teliesha.Sharee, Author & Mental Health Advocate

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I hope this blog post offers valuable insights and empowers you to make informed decisions about headphones for children with Autism. Remember, you're not alone in this journey!

Open Letter

Sun, 28 Jan 2024 22:35:25 GMT

Open Letter

I am not in this situation, for a lack of me trying.

What is the next step after praying and crying?

What else can I do

When I have children that need to be fed?

How am I expected to sustain

With an eviction looming upon my head?

This is one of the wealthiest counties in Maryland,

With so many agencies that claim to help.

If that’s the case, then why

Am I on an island by myself?

A woman like me doesn’t ask for help easily.

I strive to do things on my own.

Although my neurodivergence makes it harder,

I’ve always managed the best I could alone.

So, if I say that I need help,

That means I maxed out all other ways.

That means I’ve racked my creative brain for resources,

And yet, no solution stays.

So, what do you do next? After applying for jobs, updating your resume,

Seeking gigs and upleveling your certs?

What would you recommend to someone

Who is telling you that nothing has worked?

Would you just tell her that she’s “resilient”?

Or pat her on the back, saying she’ll “figure it out”?

Or would you advise the people within these agencies

To help this woman and stand behind what they say they’re about?

I’m intelligent, creative, and employable.

I deserve a safe and happy home.

In every career and every passion, I advocate for others.

Now I am advocating for my own.

Although I’m not where I desire (yet) financially,

I still recognize the weight of my words.

I wouldn’t have 629,000 Google views,

If my voice wasn’t worth being heard.

LinkedIn wouldn’t recognize me as a “Top Social Media Voice”,

If I wasn’t spreading a positive light.

My entire social media niche wouldn’t be based on empowerment,

If I wasn’t exercising that same right.

You can check my algorithm resume,

I advocate, inspire, and empower others every day.

I’m on the Counseling Advisory Board at my child’s school,

This is my life, and this has been my way.

I desire employment that aligns with both my purpose and my kid’s schedules,

That will enable me to comfortably afford market rent.

With no eviction on my rental history since

I’ve been vocal for years about issues that some tend to forget.

Or maybe moving up in the Housing Choice Voucher line?

I’ve been waiting for several years.

That would enable my special needs children to maintain their quality of life,

And I could finally afford to stay near.

I’ve sought a real estate agent, a mentor, and a career coach.

There has to be a purpose for it all.

I didn’t spend years doing all of this work

Just to take some traumatic fall.

I write children’s books about Autism.

I write mental health articles for an online therapy platform.

I’ve developed my own website and authored a dozen books.

I’ve educated the masses on neurodiversity and how “disability” doesn’t always have a look.

I’ve been a CNA and respectfully cared for MoCo’s elders.

I work with children who have different needs and I help them feel empowered with a better understanding of themselves.

I’m raising a published child author who is Gifted and Talented and holds public office in her elementary school.

I’ve raising a child who excels in all aspects of STEM but is into sports and theatre too.

I’m raising a child whose artwork has touched the heart of this county as she’s been featured in several displays.

We are all worthy of a desirable home. Someone else must see that too.

I refuse to believe that this was all for no reason. So now I’m passing the ball to you.

E-Books Now Available!

Sun, 28 Jan 2024 05:39:26 GMT

E-Books & Digital Products Now Available!

eBooks & Digital Products Now on Payhip !

Hi, readers!

I'm excited to announce the launch of my new store, where I've poured my passion, expertise, and creativity into each product. It's been an incredible journey putting together resources that resonate with those on a path of self-discovery, personal growth, and empowerment.

My collection includes a range of eBooks and digital products designed to enlighten, inspire, and guide. Whether you’re navigating ADHD, exploring the art of manifestation, or seeking to enhance your emotional intelligence, my store has something special for you.

ADHD Accommodations at Work: What Every Employer Should Know

Fri, 24 Nov 2023 20:48:01 GMT

ADHD Work Accommodations

ADHD Accommodations at Work: What Every Employer Should Know (calmerry.com)

Understanding ADHD accommodations at work is crucial for creating an inclusive and productive workplace. A s a writer with both personal and professional experience, I provide valuable insights into the best practices for supporting employees with ADHD. This comprehensive guide covers everything from legal requirements to practical strategies for accommodating ADHD in the workplace. Through your own self-advocacy, e mployers will learn how to create a supportive environment that maximizes productivity and employee well-being. By implementing these accommodations, you can foster a more inclusive workplace that benefits everyone. Explore this guide to gain a deeper understanding of ADHD accommodations and how they can transform your work environment.

ADHD Test: Take The First Steps with This Self-Assessment

Fri, 24 Nov 2023 20:40:28 GMT

ADHD Self-Check

O nline ADHD Test: Self-Assessment by Calmerry

Are you wondering if you or someone you know might have ADHD? This self-assessment test at Calmerry is a great starting point. This test is designed to help you recognize common symptoms of ADHD and provide guidance on the next steps. While it’s not a diagnostic tool, it can offer valuable insights and prompt you to seek professional evaluation if needed. Taking this test is the first step towards understanding and managing ADHD effectively. Start your journey towards better mental health and well-being by taking a self-assessment today.

ADHD in Women: A Comprehensive Checklist

Fri, 24 Nov 2023 20:38:30 GMT

ADHD Checklist

ADHD in Women: A Comprehensive Checklist - Calmerry

What is ADHD Paralysis?

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 21:56:54 GMT

ADHD Paralysis

What Is ADHD Paralysis? Defeat It with These Expert Tips (calmerry.com)

As Seen On: Capitol Hill

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 21:50:31 GMT

Check out this clip of when I shared my story on Capitol Hill.

This is a throwback to my appearance on Capitol Hill at a women's empowerment conference. I was a speaker at this event and had a great time in the company of positive, professional women. I spoke about my background and how I came to be in my cupcake business, Dream Puffs Cupcakery . Step By Step Women's Conference & Job Fair: https://youtu.be/AezFkDo5J-A?si=RlU7k-FyMLCren7E&t=588

Social Media

Sat, 09 Sep 2023 19:13:31 GMT

#ThankfulThursday #Daycare

This part of the blog is dedicated to some social media posts that I wanted to re-share. These were meant to inspire others who may have gone through similar experiences.

I posted this one on May 26, 2022.

In honor of my #ThankfulThursday

posts, I have another random but key memory of people I'm grateful to have had in my life, during seasons I needed blessings the most.

When I was going through my separation, I FINALLY had the chance to live alone. I had always had roommates or lived with a partner. I was determined to make this work. I was 12 hours away from my hometown and didn't have local friends. I didn't receive child support or any outside help, so I worked long hours and commuted to make ends meet.

There was a daycare center near my apartment that was either open late night or was 24 hours. In all my years of motherhood, I have yet to come across another one like it. They were there at a time I was most in need. It was Black-women owned and operated, so it gave a very family-like feel. They were super friendly and fed the kids home-cooked Southern meals. The whole building smelled like grandma's house every time I went in there.

On the days when I was running late due to traffic or had to work overtime, they never charged me. (Most daycare centers charged $1/per minute per kid back then). They would gently tell me when I looked tired, and they always told me I was doing a great job with the kids. On my late nights, they'd have a to-go plate wrapped in foil so that I wouldn't have to cook. They'd feed the kids dinner if I hadn't arrived by my usual time.

Most things went unspoken, but there was a mutual understanding. Without having to pry, they knew I was tired, overwhelmed, feeling mom guilt and skipping meals. I felt seen.

I appreciated the help with no expectations.

Just one of those seasons where I felt most alone and God was like, "Aht Aht! Lemme send you someone, so you can see."

#telieshasharee #author #poet #blackowned #ThankfulThursday #sisterhood #southernhospitality #gratitude #georgia

Loss (poem)

Sun, 03 Sep 2023 17:32:20 GMT

Loss (poem)

Loss

You know that shit is real

when even a writer can't find the words.

I'm so tired of saying, "My condolences",

A million times, it has been heard.

The empty words circle in the air

like fading clouds of smoke.

Another showcase of life's unfairness.

Another tragedy that I wish was a joke.

What are you supposed to say

When "I'm sorry for your loss" just won't work?

What are you supposed to say

when words won't take away the hurt?

"Rest in peace" or "They're no longer suffering"

Or even, "He's in a better place."

A bunch of words that mean nothing,

with what a major loss you face.

Author Teliesha.Sharee

Depression Pick-Me-Ups

Wed, 02 Aug 2023 05:25:36 GMT

Tips for Overcoming a Depressive Episode

Exercise : Regular exercise has been linked to reduced symptoms of depression. Physical activity releases endorphins, which act as natural mood lifters. Engaging in exercise can increase neurotransmitters like serotonin, promoting feelings of happiness and well-being. Moreover, exercise provides a distraction from negative thoughts and fosters a sense of accomplishment, boosting self-esteem and overall mental health.
Self-Care : Self-care is crucial for managing depression. Activities that nurture and prioritize you can improve your mood & reduce symptoms. Techniques like mindfulness, meditation, and relaxation exercises can promote emotional well-being. Prioritizing rest, setting boundaries, and engaging in hobbies can also boost self-esteem and provide a sense of control over your life.
De-Clutter : Cleaning your environment can have a positive impact on mental health. A clutter-free space can reduce stress. Cleaning tasks can provide a sense of accomplishment & promote a more positive outlook. An organized environment may lead to improved focus and concentration, positively affecting one's mood and overall mental well-being.
Release : Cry. Journal your feelings. Talk to a trusted family member or friend. Find a therapist. Allow yourself to FEEL.
Gratitude : Even when it's hard, remain in a state of being thankful. Even when you can only come up with "small' blessings, list them all! It will help in shifting your mindset towards positivity, thus clearing the air for more blessings to flow in.

This is not a comprehensive list and I am not a licensed therapist in this aspect. These are simply tips that have been tried and true throughout time. Are there any that I left out? How do you prefer to manage your down days?

Accountability

Sun, 16 Jul 2023 18:32:08 GMT

Thoughts Inside An ND Mind...

This is my first time having an online blog since the 90's.

So I'm not quite sure where I want to go with this, or how.

Since I'm a mom now, do I post recipes and parenting-hacks?

Do I appeal to inner me and just post all the random things that come to mind?

Or do I just get out of my head, realize I am a grown up now and that there are no rules to this?

Seriously though, I do want to hold myself accountable by being more consistent.

This will be now officially be my Sunday blog. You can come here to read a little of whatever comes to mind for that day. Maybe it'll be informative. Maybe it'll make you laugh. Maybe it'll make you think. Maybe you'll relate.

Lovable

Sun, 09 Jul 2023 04:34:54 GMT

Lovable

I cried when you said you were unlovable.

But I hid my face so you couldn't see.

Because why would you feel unlovable?

When you're loved so much by me.

I cried, feeling like I'd failed you.

I've been trying to love you extra for so long.

I love you. I pour into you. I accept you.

But all my love doesn't make up for who's gone.

I'm sorry that our "village" hasn't found us yet.

I promise that one day, we'll welcome our tribe.

I promise you that I'll never abandon you.

Not for as long as I'm alive.

I'll teach you to transmute your pain into purpose.

The hurt won't be this heavy forever.

Although it's hard to see it now,

all of what you're feeling will get better.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with you.

Nothing different could've been said or did.

And anyone missing from your life,

is missing out on an amazing kid.

The thing about them tables, baby

is that they always turn around.

Sometimes people don't learn their lesson,

until their until world comes crashing down.

Sometimes we witness those karmic cycles,

if it is meant for us to see.

Other times, we lose contact forever,

and leave the less desirable as who they chose to be.

Sometimes people experience darkness and then change.

Other people just never see the light.

But you, my baby, you are covered and protected.

I promise you, it will be all right.

Please don't feel unlovable.

Loved one is your middle name.

To love you is an understatement,

I just wish that I could love away your pain.

Count Your Blessings

Sun, 09 Jul 2023 04:09:23 GMT

Count Your Blessings

Count your blessings,

even when your back's against the wall.

Count your blessings,

and when life hits you, don't you fall.

Count your blessings.

Because you've never been where I've been.

Count your blessings twice.

Then count them again.

Count your blessings.

Because you are able to thrive.

Count your blessings.

While you've already earned your degree, some of us are simply trying to survive.

Count your blessings.

Because eviction and repossession are not at the forefront of your mind.

Count your blessings.

Because your struggles are not the same as mine.

Count your blessings.

Because you don't equate your self-worth to the lack of bread you bring to the table.

Count your blessings.

Because your bills are paid, your car is intact, and you are financially stable.

Count your blessings.

Because you're not in this hamster wheel with me.

Constantly wondering where you've gone wrong.

Count your blessings.

Because if life gets hard, you can cry.

I can't..too busy being strong.

Count your blessings.

While those of us in survival mode fervently pray that things will get better.

Count your blessings.

Enjoy your sunshine while I navigate this stormy weather.

Count your blessings.

Because some of us do everything we can to get ahead.

Count your blessings.

Because you're not a first-generation student, divorcee and single mother.

I'm the only one winning the bread.

Count your blessings.

Because your bread serving is enough to keep a roof over the heads of your kin.

Count your blessings.

Because you've never lost everything and had to start all over again.

5 Day Mental Health Boost Challenge

telieshamoore@yahoo.com (Teliesha Moore) — Mon, 08 May 2023 16:30:45 GMT

Improve your mindset, improve your life!

Day 1: Get grounded (in a good way!) - 5-Day Challenge to Boost Your Mental Health | Rise 360 (articulate.com)

Introduction

Thu, 04 May 2023 20:34:50 GMT

Me. & How This All Came To Be.

It never ceases to amaze me that no matter how much I love writing, I hate writing introductions! ��

I'm Teliesha.Sharee & I'm a multifaceted millennial mom.

Writing is my passion and has been a longtime love of mine. I started reading at an early age (shout-out to my Nana!) & my love of writing developed from there. I would read books so fast that I was inspired to create more books.

As a neurodivergent empath, I enjoy working in jobs that enable me to help others. I have been a teacher, worked in healthcare, behavior therapy, etc. I also volunteer with family shelters and bake birthday cakes for critically ill children.

All of these things make me who I am as both a person and a brand. I've been through a lot and have detailed some of my past traumas and triumphs in my books. I know how it feels to be unheard. I know how it feels to be neurodivergent in a not-always-so-understanding world.

My experiences led me to create a job for myself that combines all of the things I am passionate about: creating art and helping others. I love to educate people about subjects that I'm well-versed in through both education and lived experiences. I create many avenues of teaching people about things they need to know.

I'm pretty active on social media, so you can always follow me there to get to know me virtually!